Welcometofeedyourfamilytonightpodcasteachweek.Weareservingupmotivationandinspirationtohelpyougetweeknightdinneronthetablelettingyourecapturealittlecalminthecrateandnowyourhostspeakerauthorandmarriedmother-of-fourMarieFIBA.Hellofriends,welcometothefeedyourfamilytonightpodcastepisode103.Isittoosoontotalkabouttheholidays,youknow,itslateOctoberifyourelisteningtothislifetimeandyouknowwhathappensassoonasHalloweensoverallofthestoresclearoutalloftheirHalloweencandyandcostumesanddecorationsandtheentiresectionisfilledwithallthingsChristmasChristmasdecorationsChristmas.CandystockingstuffersItallbecomesfilledwithChristmasiscomingsoonerthanyouthinkitsfunnyinthepastcoupleofdays.Ivehadtwofriendstellme.Well,youknow,Marieyourejustsoorganized.Ihavealittleconfession.Imreallynotthatorganized.IwishIwasoneofthosesupersuperorganizedpeople,buttherealityisIhavetousepapertogeteverythinginmyheadout.SothatitdoesntclutterupmymindandIstartdroppingballs.ThatswhyImealplanamealplansothatIputallofmydecisionsintoafewminutesatthebeginningoftheweeksothatIdonthavethoseideasfloatingthroughmybraintoclutterupmymind.Idontknowaboutyou.ButwhenIhavetoomanythingsswirlinginmyhead,IhavetoomanycommitmentsintoomanythingsthatImtryingtoremember.ThatswhenIstartdroppingballs.Idontlikeitwhenithappensanditmakesmefeelreallyreallyfrustratedandreallyreallyoverwhelmed.AndsolastyearoneofthethingsthatIhavefoundthathasreallyworldthroughmyheadisallofthethingshappeningaroundtheholidayswhenyoulookatwhattheaveragefamilydoesbetweenThanksgivingandNewYearstherearehundredsoflittlemicrodecisionsthatwehavetomaketwo.Participateintheholidays.However,wedothatinourhomealloftheselittlemicrodecisions.Ifwedontgetthemoutofherheadandonpaperservedtoclutterourmindsandputourmindsgetcluttered.Thatswhenwestartfeelingoverwhelmed.IfeltitmanymanytimesonethingthatweusuallydealwithinourfamilyaroundtheholidaysisthatmygirlsandIareinaplaywithourlocalchildrenstheater.ItsoneofthefunnestplaceeverItstheBestChristmasPageantEverandthechildrenCedarhasdoneitfor38yearsand38yearsago.Iwasintheveryfirstcastinyearspast.Mysisterhasbeeninitwithuswithsomeofherchildrenandmydadwasinitlastyear.ItskindofabigfamilythingandIdontknowifwellbecastintheshowthisyear.Wehavetoauditioneveryyear.Sowhoknowswhatsgoingtohappen,butthatcommitmenttakesalotoftime.Inoneofthebusiestseasonsoftheyear.Solastyear,IsetouttofreemybrainofsomeoftheselittlemicrodecisionandIcreatedthefeedyourfamilytonightholidayplannerandItreallyhelpedbecauseithelpedmetakeallofthesethingsthatIknowImgoingtohavetofaceduringtheholidays,butputtingitonpaperinoneplace.HelpmestayontopofitandhelpmenotworriedthatIwasmissingsomething.Haveyoueverhadthatfeelingwhereyouknow,youshouldbedoingsomethingbutinyouknow,youremissingsomethingbutyoudontquiteknowwhatitis.Andthenthatthingcomesupandyourelike,oh,yeah,thatswhatIforgottodo.Itshappenedtomeonsomanyoccasionsandbyusingthefeedyourfamilytonightholidayplannerlastyear.IwasabletotakethatoutofmybrainbecauseitwasallonpaperandIcouldchoosewhatIwasgoingtodoandwhatIwasntgoingtodo,butIwasmuchmoreintentionalanditfreedupmybrainspaceandreallyhelpspullmeoutoftheoverwhelmedthatoftenhappenstomeintheholidays.Weatherfeedyourfamilytonightholidayplannerisbackanditisnewandimproved.IhaveupdateditandaddedlotsofbonusesandIveaddedacoupleofsectionstothetableofcontentstomakeitevenmoreuser-friendlyoneofmyfavoritethingsthatIaddedthisyear.IaddedaThanksgivingcountdownwhereyoulookifyouarehostingThanksgivingyouplan2to3weeks1weekandallofthattasktoshouldbedoingleadinguptoThanksgivingallthewayuptothedaybeforeandthedayoftomakesurethatyouremanagingyourovenspaceandallofthelittletasksthatcomewithhostingalargeGatheringbutmanyofusarentgoingtobeHavingourusualThanksgivingdinnersthisyearbecausemaybewerenottravelingtofamilyormaybeourAuntwhousuallydoesabigfamilygatheringissayingwerenothavingabigfamilygatheringthisyear.Weretryingtobecarefulofthepandemicandsothingsaregoingtobechanging.SoIalsocreatedaThanksgiving101sheet.IfitsyourfirsttimeevercookingThanksgivingdinner.YoucanlookatthattomakesurethatyourenotmissinganyofthemajorthingsinawalkiethroughallthestepstomakingsurethatyouhaveasuccessfulThanksgivingdinner.AndafterThanksgiving,IhaveacountdowntoChristmas.AndforthoseofyouwhoareearlybirdslisteningtothisinOctober.IhaveanOctoberstartwheretheearlybirdscangetstartedonalloftheirtasksforChristmasinOctoberorifyourealittlebitofanearlybird.IhaveaNovemberstartandifyourelikemeanddontgetstarteduntilDecember,Igotyoucoveredtheretoo.IhaveaDecemberstartthewholepointofcreatingthesecountdownsheetsistomakesurethatyouarestayingontopofallofthehundredsoflittledecision.YouhavetomakeasyouplanfortheholidaysbygettingthesethingsoutofyourheadandonthepaperandUnionhavetogethimoutofyourheadcuzIvealreadygotthemonpaperforyou.Andallyouhavetodoischoosewhatsmostimportanttoyoufocusonthosethingsandthenletgooftherestbecausenoonesperfect.Nofamilyisperfect.ButifyoucanfocusonthethingsAremostimportanttoyouyouaregoingtohavethebestholidayever.ByputtingthingsonpaperIgetitoutofmyheadandImabletofocusonwhatsmostimportantandformethisyearthemostimportantthingiscreatedinconnectionwithfamilyandfriendsandIwanttohavethatfeelingofcalmandpeacearoundtheholidays.Icanseemyself,youknowacoupleofdaysbeforeChristmaswithmychildrenareoutofschoolandwerejustplayingboardgamesandenjoyeachotherandImnottryingtorunaroundandpurchasegiftsordolastminuteholidaydecorationsbecauseIplannedaheadanddonethethingsthatareimportantsothatIcanhavetimetoconnectwithmychildren.IfeellikeinthisyearofpandemicconnectionissomethingthatismostimportantandwhatthatgiftwasisthatitcausestoslowdownandweletgoofouroldhabitsandroutinesandwevehadtocreatenewhabitsandroutinesandaswevecreatedthesenewhabitsandroutineswevebeenabletochoosethingsthataremostimportanttoourfamilyandthinksthatarentasimportantforlettinggoAndthatsbeenreallygoodandthatswhatIwantyoutothinkaboutasyougointothe2020holidayseason.IwantyoutothinkaboutthethingsthataremostimportanttoyouandtheotherthingsmaybeyoucanletthemgonomatterwhatwerealwayshavetomakechoicesinDecemberaboutthingsthatweredoingornotdoingbecausethereisnowayyoucandoeverythingbutmaybetheressomethingthatyouwantedtodoforalongtime.MaybeyouvealwayswantedtotakethecarriageridethroughtheparkbutyouveneverscheduleditormaybeyouvealwayswantedtogotoaChristmastreelightingNowstheTimetochangeyourTraditionsalittlebitandImnotsayingchangeallyourtraditionsbecauseIreallybelieveTraditionscreatestabilityforyourchildrendisabilityforyourfamily.Itsawayofgroundingyoubutifyouhavethingsthathavereallycausemoreoverwhelmedenjoythisyearisyourexcusetochangethem.Itiskindoflikealittlegifttopermissiontosaynoandsometimesitsreallyniceisthatwehavethegiftofpermissiontosaynoandforsurethisholidayseasongivesyouthat.Butbeforeweseenowwehavetothinkaboutwhatwearesayingyestowhatarethemostimportantthingstousthisyear.IrememberIwaspregnantwithmysecondchildandshewasdueinlateNovemberdidntendupgettingbornuntilDecember.LetmetellyouitbeingoverdueinNovemberisnotfun,butShewasdueinlateNovemberandIhadmyoldestwhowasabouttoturntoinDecemberandtherewasnowayIwasgoingtobeabletodoChristmasshoppingwithanewbornandatwoyearoldandIrememberitwastheweekbeforeThanksgiving.SoitwasreallyearlyintheseasonwastheweekbeforeThanksgivingandmybestfriendandIgotintohercarandwehadourlistofallofthegifts.Wewantedtobuyalloftheplaces.Wewantedtogoandbuythemandwespentlikeanentiredaylike10inthemorninguntil4intheafternoonifwestoppedandhadlunchinthemiddlethere,butwewentandweboughtallofourChristmaspresentsinoneEpicshoppingtrip.Andinorderforthattohappen.Ihadtobesuperorganized.IhadtothinkofallthepeoplethatIwasplanningonbuyinggiftsforIhadtolistallofthegiftsthatIwasgoingtobebyandIhadtolistwhereIwasgoingtobuythemfromAndwhenItookthetimetointentionallyplannedaheadandthenjustdidonebiggiantshoppingtrip.ItwasamazingbecauseIwasntrunningaroundallovertownandIwasntretracingmysteps.IknewexactlywhatIneededtogetandhavinganewbornwastheguidingforcebehindmehavingtomakeithappen.ButIdecidedthatIwanttodothatthisyeartoo.Andsopartoftheholidayplanningguideisawholesectionongift-givingwhereyoucanprintoutsheetsforallofthecategoriesofpeoplethatyourebuyinggiftsforfromteacherstoyourmotherinlawyourchildren.IprintoutawholepageforeachchildbecausewithDecemberbirthdays,IhaveauntsandunclesandgrandpasaskedmeforagiftideasformykidsandIhavetobeverycarefulhowIplanitout.Sotheydontgetlikesixofthesamething.AndtheotherthingiswithhergettingalltheirgiftstoDecember.IwanttomakesurethattheyhavegiftsthatGivethemajointatthewholeyearlongsothatitsnotalljustoneanddonefasthappeninginDecemberandthentheresnothingtoenjoytherestoftheyear.SoImreallycarefullyplannedoutwhattheirgiftsuggestionsareandwhoImgoingtosuggesttogetthedifferentgiftswhenyougotdifferentgrandparentsandauntsandunclesyoukindofknowwhattheirbudgetsare.YoukindofknowwhattheirGeneralstyleisforthethingsthattheyliketogivemyfather-in-lawespeciallyisreallygoodatbuyingclothing.Hewilltakemychildtoastoreandwelltryonthingsandheseveninthepassagesomethingdoesntfitjustright.Hewilltakeittoatailortomakesurethatitfitsexactlyhowitshouldfit.AndsoifmychildneedsapieceofclothingIamgoingtogivethatsuggesttomyhusbandsparentsbecausetheyarereallygoodatfindingclothing.Soyouwanttothinkaboutwhothegiftgiversgoingtobeifyouregivingoutsuggestionsforyourkids,butbyhavingaonesheetforeachkid,youcankeeptrackofwhatshappening.Andwhatgiftseveryoneisgoingtobegivingtoyourchildren.Theotherthingisthenyouhaveonesheetforeachcategoryofgiftsthatyouaregiving.SoIhaveasheetwithalloftheteachersnamesonitandIhaveasheetwithalloftheserviceprovidersthatIwanttogiveasmallgifttohaveasheetoftheneighborsthatIwanttotakebakedgoodstoandcolleaguesatworkthatIwanttomakesuregetalittlegiftatChristmasandIputallofthatdownonsheetsandIputthatinmyChristmasbinderandthenwhenIlookatallofthatIcanseewhatIvegottobuysomethingforthemailmanandthatsatthesamestoreasthesamethatIwanttogetmysonforChristmasandIcanputitallbytheretailerortheweb.SideandIcanlistenalso.Imonlymakingoneshoppingtriptoeachstoreandthatisgoingtosaveyousomuchtimeandifyouareshoppingonlineisgoingtosaveyoumoneywithshippingin2020manyofusaregoingtobedoingmuchmoreshoppingonlineratherthaninperson.Andthatissomethingthatisgoingtodisrupttheshippingalittlebit.Iamadvisingpeopletoreallyshopearlyonlineasmuchaspossible.IhavelookedatAmazonswebsite.IhavelookedatUPS.IhavelookedatFedExandtheUSPostalService.UPShaslow-costshippingdeadlinesasearlyasDecember13th.IfyouareshippingwithUPSafterDecember13th,youarelikelygoingtobepayingahigherpremiumrateandthecloseryougettoChristmas.Themorepremium.TherateisgoingtobethesamethingishappeningwithFedEx.AndAmazonisnotguarantee2dayshippingonalloftheiritems.Theyareattemptingtodayshipping,buttheyaresayingthattheyarenotguaranteeingtwodayshippingwithalloftheiritems.Soifyouareplanningondoingalotofyourshoppingonline,IhighlyencourageyoutoshopisearlyaspossibleinordertomakesurethattheitemsareshippedtoyouwellbeforeChristmassothattheycouldbewrappedandreadytogo.Christmasshoppingisjustonepartofgettingreadyfortheholidays,buttherearesomanyotherthingsthatareimportanttousduringtheholidaystolotsoforganizationsalwaysaskfordonationsatthistimeofyear.AndIactuallysetabudgetandIputalistoftheorganizationsthatweplantodonatetosothatIcanbeintentionalandratherthanjustreactingtotherequestthatcomeacrossourmailbox.Ialsothinkabouttheactivitiesthatourfamilywantstoparticipateinaspartofourholidayseasonwiththeactivitiesandtheshoppingandthedecoratingandalloftheselittlethingsthatareimportantattheholidays.ThebiggestthingsthatIcanencourageyoutodoistoMarktimeonyourcalendartodoallofthosethings.Andonceitsonyourcalendar,itmayhavetochangeyoumayhavetomoveitaroundbutyouaregoingtomakemuchbetterdecisionsaboutyourtime.Ifyouhaveblockedouttimefortheseimportanttasksnow,ifyouarecookingThanksgivingdinner,youneedtoblockoutlotsoftime.Youneedtoblockouttimeformealplanning.Youneedtoblockouttimeforgroceryshopping.Youneedtoblockouttimeforcookingandcleaningassetupallofthesethingsthatwedotaketime.Andifweareintentionalandputthemonourcalendarisgoingtobemucheasier.Sayyestothethingsthataremostimportanttousandletgothethingsthatarentquiteasimportant.IoftensayDecember.MarieisgoingtothinkOctoberMariefortakingtheselittlebitoftimenowandMargiethingsonmycalendarthinkingaboutwhatIwanttheholidaystolooklikeinourfamilyandfocusingonthethingsthataremostimportantbysettingthattimeonmycalendar.ItsgoingtohelpmesaynotothingsthatarelessimportantbecauseIalreadyhavetimeblockedonmycalendarlastyear.WedontgetourChristmastreeuntilafterourbirthdaysaredoneinDecembermymothermyfatheroftwoofmykidsallhavebirthdaysinthesameweekinDecember.WejustmadeadecisionasafamilytofocusonthebirthdaysandthenafterthebirthdaysareoverwellgogetaChristmastree.WellbirthdaysareoverbythesecondweekofDecemberandlastyear.WedidnotgetourChristmastreeuntillikeafewdaysbeforeChristmas.Weliketodoit.Familyissomethingthatweusuallydointheevening.Weborrowmydadstruckandwegoandpickoutthetreeanditsaspecialnightforourfamilyandbetweentheplaythatwewereinandprogramsatschoolandsportsandotheractivities.WedidnotfindtimeuntiljustafewdaysbeforeChristmasandthewholetimeIwasgettingdownonmyselffeelslikeIhadfailedmyfamilybecausewewerentgettingthistreeupinreality.Myfamilydidntcarethatmuch.Theyknewthatwewerecrazybusy.ButthisyearImdeterminedtonotletthathappenbygoalistoputitonthecalendarandifIhavetomoveit,atleastIhavemadethatappointment.Itsmucheasiertomoveanexistingappointment.Thenitistocreateanewonewhenyourcalendarstartsfillingupwithholidaycommitments.Ifyouareinterestedinlookingatthefeedyourfamilytonightholidayplanner.Itsatfeedyourfamilytonight.CALMholiday.Thisplanetwillhelptakeallofthosehundredsofdecisionsthatyouaremakingaroundtheholidaysandwillgetthemoutofyourheadandonpaperandthatisgoingtohelpreyourbrainsface.Itisgoingtocalltheoverwhelmedandcalmtheanxiety.IknowformewhenImtryingtokeeptoomuchinmyhead.Thatswhenitallfallsapart.SoIencourageyoutotakealookatthefuturefamilytonightholidayplanner.Isitfeedyourfamilytonight.CALMholiday,ifyoueverhavequestionsaboutit,youcanjoinmeinafeedyourfamilytonightFacebookgroup.Imhappytoanswerallofyourquestions.Therearesomereallyfunbonusesinthisyearsholidayplanner.IvereallygoneandrevampeditandaddedthingsthatIhopeyouwillfindveryveryusefulsothatyoucanhavethebestholidayeverandenjoyyourtimewithyourfamily.Sofornowfriends,takecare.Pictureyourselfsittinginyourdecoratedhomeinthemidstoftheholidayseason,allofyourgiftsarepurchasedandwrappeddinnersintheovenandyoureenjoyingamomentofrestorspendingqualitytimewithyourfamilyover.Well,justcallthefuturefamilytonightholidayplanningguideisheretohelpyoumanage.Thehundredsoflittletasksthatcomewiththeholidayseasonfromshippingtoroastingaturkey.Wehavegotyoucovered.Yourplanyourgiftyourmealsyourdecoratingandsomuchmoreandnewthisyear.WeveaddedthecountdowntoChristmasworksheetswhetheryourestartinginOctoberorstartinginDecember.Theseweresheetswillhelpyougetoutoftheoverwhelmedandfocusonthethingsthataremostimportanttoyouthisholidayseasonformoreinformationvisitfeedyourfamilytonight.CALMholidayandgetyourowncopyoftheholidayplanningguide.Thanksforlisteningtofeedyourfamilytonightpodcastwithyourhoesmarifiback.Ifyouliketheshowandwanttoknowmore,pleasevisitfeedyourfamilytonight.Calmandifyo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