Welcometothe You’re your Family Tonight,podcast,doyoudreadhearingthequestion,whatsfordinner?Whetheryouspendyourdays,keepingupwithtoddlers,runningkidstoafter-school,activitiesarejuggling,acareerandfamilygettingdinneronthetable.CanbeastruggleforusallIdontreceivebackabusinessownerwifeandmomoffour.Imonamissiontobuildstrongerfamilies.Onedinneratatime.AndImherewithtips,tricksandinspiration.Youneedtofeedyourfamilytonight.Hello,friends,welcometotheFuturefamilytonightpodcastepisode,132onyourhouse,Mariefiebach,andIamexcitedtobeherewithyoutoday.SoweregoingtotalkabouteatingoutEverypersonneedsthatfriendintheirlifethatwillshootstraightfrom,thehipwilltellyouexactlywhatyouneedtobe.Toldeveniftheyareafraidthatyoudontwanttohearit,thatfriendinmylifeisoftenJenny,Jenny,andIgrewupnextdoortoeachotherandhavebeenfriendssincewewerefiveyearsold.Webothhavetwingirls.WeliveinthesameneighborhoodthatwegrewupinJennywilltellmelikeitisandshesaidMariepeoplethinkthatyouarenothumanbecauseyouneverhaveonyourweeklymealplaneatoutandshegoesmostnormalpeopleeatoutonceortwiceaweekiskindofacommonthingandIsaid,IthinkIbettertalkonmypodcastabouteatingout.Shesright,yourarelyseedinneroutonmymealplan,andImgoingtotellyoualittlebitaboutwhythatisaswegettowardstheendofthispodcast,youregoingtoreallygetwhatmyopinionisoneatingout,andyoumightbesurprised.So,stickaroundtohearwhatIhavetosayabouteatingout.IfyouhaveheardmespeakinpersonyouwillknowthatIhaveonesister.ShessixandahalfyearsyoungerthanIamandsheandIcancountononehandthenumberoftimesourfamilyateoutdinneronaweeknight.Nowthatsnottosaythatweneverateout.MyparentswouldoftengoouttobreakfastonSundaysafterchurchandoccasionallylikeeveryothermonthormaybeonceamonthorsowewouldgotoPizzaHutandthiswasinthe1980swhereyouwouldactuallygoandeatatthePizzaHutandyoudgetapizzaandtheparentswouldgetapictureofbeerandthekidswouldgetapictureofpopandeverybodywouldgetasaladbaranditwasnotlikefinedining,butitwasdefinitelylikegoingoutandgoingtoarestaurantandeatinginsidearestaurant.DidthatfrequentlyenoughbutmyfamilyneverateoutonlikeaTuesdaynightandpartofthatwasmydadworkedinretailandwekindofhadawalkieschedulebutmysisterandIcannamethethreetimesinourchildhoodthatweateoutonaweeknightthefirsttime.Iwasinfourthgrade,andmymothersaidImgoingtotakeyououttodinner.AndIwaslike,oh,okay.Shejustwantstopickoutarestaurant.SoIpickedoutarestaurant,andIgotdressedupcuzitwasntsomethingthatwedidveryfrequently.Soitwaskindofabigdealandmymomtookmetotherestaurant.Ican,mysisterwaslike3yearsoldatthetime.SoshestayedhomewithDad,mymomtookmetotherestaurantandwhenwewalkedintotherestaurant,mymomsaidtothehostess.Hey,canwehavethattablewayattheback?Nowmyfourthgradeselfdidnotthinkredflag,redflag,somethingnotgoodiscoming,right?Whenyourmomaskforthetableattheback?Doyouknowwhy?Mymomtookmetodinner?Itwastohavethetalk.Ohyeah.Youknowthatonetheoneaboutthebirdschirpinginthebeesbuzzing.Yeahthatiswhymymothertookmeouttodinner.Luckilythatrestaurantcloseaftermy4thgradedinnerofhorrorwithmymothermysistertime.NumbertwowasnotquitesoluckymysisterpickthisrestaurantcalledCinnamonsDeli.ItskindofaWichitaLegend.Theyhavethesandwichesthataremadeonbread,thatisthickerthanTexastoast,anditisslatheredinbutterandgrilledtoPerfectionandthesesandwichesareservedalongsidesoup.Inabreadbowl,itisacarbLoversparadiseandthisrestaurantstillexistinWichitatothisday.AndthenmysistergoesintoaCinnamonsDeli,herheartkindofstartsbeatingalittlebitfasterandherarmpitskindofstartsweatingalittlebitmorebecausesherememberswhatitisliketobeinforFirstgradelearningaboutTheFactsofLifefromyourmotherinarestaurant.ThethirdtimedoesSheltonFamily8onaweeknightpiewasnteventhereagain.Sarah,sixandahalfyearsyoungerthanIam.AndIwasincollege,Ileftforcollegewhenshewasingradeschoolandoneday,asshetellsthestory,MyFatherwalkedinthedoorfromworkandmymomsaysweregoingouttodinnertonight,justbecauseSheldons,nevergoouttodinneronaweeknight,justbecauseitwasjustbecausemysisterhadgottenherfirst.Idonotknowwhatitisabouthumansexualityandmymothernotwantingtocookbuttherewassomethingthereandthoseweretheonlytimesthatweremembereatingoutonaweeknightasachild.AndItellyouthisbecauseaitsareallyfunnystoryabouthowIgrewupbutalsobecauseitshowsthatIgrewupnoteatingoutandsoIJustnotusedtothat.Itwasntsomethingthatwasnormalforme,wealwaysatedinnerathome.Mymotherhadanincidentstashofwhatshecalledquoteonquoteinstantmeals,whichwerebasicallylikehamburgerthatwasprecookedthatshecouldquickmakeintotacosoritmightbesometacomeatorsomething?TherewasanInfamousinstantmealcalledturkey,treatthatwasabsolutelydisgusting.AndmysisterandIarestilltraumatizedfromeatingTurkeyCreek,butithappenedtomymotherandwestilldidnteatout.Wedidntrunthroughthedrive-thruandthiswasthe80sbeforetheirrotisseriechickensinyourlocalgrocerystore.Youcanjustgotothestoreandbuyarotisseriechicken.Really.Youcouldntevenjustgotothestore,buybonelessskinless,chickenbreasttoquicklyGrill.SoIgrewupthateatingoutwithsomethingthatyoudidonoccasion,butitwasntsomethingthatyoudidonaweeknight.AndsothatwashowIwasraised.Mymotherhadherbackupmealsandwhenthewheelsfelloffandyouknow,thereweredaysinourhomewherethewh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lingoutthatbackupmeondays.Whenthewheelsfalloff,doesnthavetheguiltattachedtoitasthedayswere,youknow,thatyoureallywanttohavethatdinneroutanyway.Soletsputthemonourmealplansandletsplanforitsothatwehavethatmentalspacealldaylong.Andwerenothavingthatbackandforthinherheadthinkingthatweshouldbecauseitisawordthatisgoingtobringyoudown,ratherthanliftyouup.AndIamheretohelpliftyouup,makemealplanning,alittleeasier,familydinners,alittlebitbetterinyourhome.SoIcantwait.Iwantyoutopostinthefeed,yourfamilytonight,Facebookgroup,whenyouhaveamealplanthathasdinneroutonit,postedinthefuturefamilytonight,Facebookgroup,andwearegoingtocheeryouonfrommakingthechoiceandFreeYourselfofthatword,shouldFriends,joinmeintheFacebookgroup.Ifyouwanttosharethispodcast,pleaseshareitwithafriend.Letthemknowthatyouaregettingencouragementfromthefeaturefamilytonightpodcast,andtheymightaswell,Connectmetotakecare.

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